You CAN and you WILL!

I’ve talked about how 2016 is THE YEAR I finally do some major soul searching and work on changing parts of myself that I want to better and strengthen.  I’ve had this motto so to speak that I keep telling myself, You CAN and you Will!  I have struggled with doubting myself and my abilities and I have wanted to work on ME as a person for a long time.  What makes me feel happy about myself, what makes me feel stronger as a person mentally.  I’ve had the habit of having a lot of self-doubt and comparing my lives to others, thinking that if they were happy with what I wanted, then maybe I’d be happier as a person as well.  That’s not exactly the key to happiness.  Lesson Learned.

“I want to improve my work and better my creative abilities, but I’m not as good as everyone else.”  That’s the old me and what I’d normally say.  Now I tell myself You CAN and you WILL!   When I find something that I’m struggling with, I’ll ask for help.  When I have a goal, I’ll do my best to find a way to achieve that goal.  It’s not that it’s always easy, but I’ve learned that hard work pays off.  I’m not afraid to be critical of my work and there will always be times that I struggle and feel uninspired, BUT I have learned to set goals for myself and my work.  Some of those goals:

• Set a schedule for myself and allow myself breaks
• Create a form and ask readers thoughts on Simply Stine (Click to open and fill out)
• Work on bettering photography skills and ask for help from others
• Reach out to companies
• Finish up details on Podcast (Yes, it’s happening!!)
• Get inspired to do more YouTube videos

“I will never be as pretty as a lot of the girls I work with or admire. ”  PUH-LEASE!!! You CAN and you WILL!  What is pretty?  Aren’t we all pretty in our own way?  I might not have the perfect face, the perfect features,  the longest lashes or the slimmest face, BUT I can be my own version of pretty.  I’ve learned to focus on the features that I really love and to work on the ones that bother me (my weight, etc).  Will I ever look like Cindy Crawford?  Probably not, BUT I’m ok with that! 

“I won’t be as happy as everyone else.” This one is a real struggle for me, but I still have to remind myself that You CAN and you WILL…eventually!  In my life, I don’t think I’ve ever gone through anything as difficult as this Infertility business.  I still get nervous talking about it, I still get upset about it and I still have a hard time believing that I WILL be as happy as a lot of my friends are because I haven’t been able to experience motherhood and raising my own family.  I think there are a lot of pressures that we put on our selves and for me, this is one of them.  I’m working on finding my happiness and understanding that maybe my life isn’t going to go exactly as I had planned, but maybe that’s ok?  I’m not there yet, but I still have to remind myself that I can be happy, it just might not be today.  

I am the one person who can really change my life and make things happen. I’ve found that wishing I had what others have/had isn’t always the answer.  Sure, there have been moments in my life where I’d give anything to trade places with someone, but for all I know, someone could be saying the same thing about me!  Having a little bit of confidence in yourself and taking action in your life can create a lot of positivity and results!  Our lives are what we make of them and I plan on working on mine a lot more than I had been!  I want to have the courage to face topics and issues that I’ve put off for fear I won’t be able to achieve them.  I want to tackle personal issues head on and find ways of making those a priority in my life.  I’ve found that I was so used to saying yes to others that I kind of put my own happiness on the back burner to please others, but now I when I ask myself “Is it ok if I worry about my own happiness first, before others?” I simply tell myself, You CAN and you WILL!  

Up next week I’m going to talk about something really personal to me and it’s something that I experienced recently and had no idea what to do about it!  It’s a story I think a lot of you can relate to!